Research on the subject highlights one unfortunate fact: Black women are the lowest on the online-dating totem pole. What bothers me the most is the fact that I'm not given a chance." "All I want is to date a respectable, professional man of any color who loves me with all my chocolate skin and rolls. Christian has seen profiles declaring that they're interested in every race except black women, and someone once told her "her kind" wasn't "good enough to date." Another guy said he'd "always wanted to try a black girl" because rumor had it we're like "sexual toys." "I cried that night ," says Christian. Listening to her experiences makes me want to set something on fire. She's tried out Tinder, Plenty of Fish, OkCupid, and. "As a plus-size black woman attempting to find a suitable mate or at least a date, the results can be pretty sad," Christian S., 30, a Dallas, Texas-based fitness blogger and the creator of The Plush Cyclist, tells SELF.